Why I Don’t Cosplay

I’ve been a geek all my life. From the time I was a little girl I grew up on Star Trek and had a deep, undying love for Sherlock Holmes. I lived blissfully unaware of the mocking geeks get as I grew up because I was homeschooled. My peers were fellow kids at church and clubs. It wasn’t until I was about 12 that I realized I was different. A girl at summer camp teased me for using large words, which I thought were normal, every day words. It was also around that same time I started getting teased for being overweight.

I’m not going to say that I’ve been brutally teased like some people I know. My incidents of being bullied for my weight are very few (several have happened online with extremely rude comments or emails). We’re talking a handful of incidents over a very long period of time. Personal attacks are rare, but the general overall feeling about overweight women, especially in the geek fandom is intense.

While my body image and confidence are usually fine, going to a big convention filled with scantily clad hotties sends my shields up. I’ve been in earshot of people who snicker and laugh at the plus-sized Batgirls or other cosplayers who don’t fit the skinny actresses they’re portraying. Once I asked one of these curvy girls to pose for a picture and genuine shock crossed her face. Other times it’s been a large man in a Roman gladiator outfit who gets laughed at or the plus-sized Princess Lei. Every time I heard these snickers and laughs I was less comfortable with dressing up.

I’ve only dressed up at a convention once, despite having attended many. It was DragonCon, I was on a panel for my audio drama podcast and I dressed up as my character, Anya. My mother made me a skirt and I painted a shirt to resemble her Once More With Feeling costume. In a large group of costumed people (my best friends were Buffy and Drusilla), I felt more able to handle my perception of dressing up. It helped my costume wasn’t too far out there (I mean, it was a skirt and shirt). Even so, I was ill at ease despite the euphoria of celebrating an amazing production and having a packed out room to hear our performance. I rushed back to my hotel room and changed as soon as I could.

So when I saw all of the Doctor Who cosplayers at Gallifrey One again this year it brought up those emotions. I remembered the poor girl who asked on a forum who she could dress up as being plus-sized, the only answer she got was ogre Princess Fiona. I wanted to scream.

I can’t even say it’s Hollywood’s fault per say. When I considered dressing up as an actress who is plus-sized and was figuring how to do her costume I read a glut of nasty YouTube comments and the emotional response just flared up again. Here was a wonderful actress, who I so admired, being skewered online because of her weight (I know, I know it’s YouTube, what should I expect, but still it’s awful).

Cosplaying is supposed to be, at least for me, an escape. It’s a chance to be someone else for awhile and to live in their skin. I love walking around Gallifrey One and seeing the responses people get to their costumes. One girl, dressed as Sherlock, was walking away and another girl caught a glimpse of her and yelled out, “I believe in you, Sherlock!” It was like when little kids see their favorite characters at Disney and believe, in that moment, that they’re real. It warmed my heart. But, I can never have that experience because of the reactions I have heard in the past.

So, I won’t cosplay. It’s the one area of fandom I’ve barely tried and it kind of makes me sad.

So why write about it here? Well, I didn’t want to really. I’m not a big fan of pity parties or being vulnerable in a public forum. I finally realized I should get the conversation going and perhaps make people think twice before they snicker at the plus-sized costumed fan walking through the hallways of your next convention. The cosplayer you save might just be me.

 

 

EDIT! Follow up post about this is here.

55 comments

  1. Excellent post, Tabitha. This part, to me, is precisely why so many people are driven away from cosplay: “Cosplaying is supposed to be, at least for me, an escape. It’s a chance to be someone else for awhile and to live in their skin.” When that’s what you want out of cosplay, and your body doesn’t match a cultural beauty ideal, then cosplay simply doesn’t work. Because it is cannot be outside of culture. (That was a big theme of the interpretative cosplay/crossplay panel at Gally.) You can’t escape the world in which you are oppressed because of your size (or your skin color, or your gender presentation). Which means that when you want cosplay to be simple enjoyment and wallowing in a character, you have to match body expectations. That’s not fair, of course, but it’s a reflection of the fact that our culture isn’t fair to any fat women. And cosplay is not separate from culture.

    If, however, you want your cosplay to be a challenge, a response to a show and a fandom that participates in the oppression of your body, then dressing as a fat slave Rose, or a Black Jack Harkness, or a (dis)abled Doctor, can be fun. Not a fun separated from oppression, but a purposefully rebellious kind of fun.

  2. Samantha says:

    I would live to explore the display part of fandom….but I, like a lot of people, don’t want people to ridicule mebecause of my weight. Hell, I get embarrassed dressing up for our annual Halloween party! There are tons of costumes for plus size people…but very few for anyone who is sized bigger than a 24. I would love to go to Dragoncon dressed as my favorite Buffy or Doctor Who character…but it is difficult to find clothes or a costume that would work. People can be cruel and i’m just not sure I want to put myself through that. I only live an hour and a half from Atlanta and I’ve never been to Dcon….sad, eh?

    • Tabitha Smith "Tabz" says:

      I hope the comments here can give you some inspiration! And you should go, DragonCon is great even if you don’t dress up!

    • Janice says:

      Make your own,if you can’t find anything to your liking :)

      Being a cosplayer of color whose also over weight, I was so nervous about cosplaying, but I decided to do it anyway and ended up dressing up as Russia. I was lucky enough to meet some awesome people who didnt care what I looked like, and honestly it might not always be like that. If your really nervous about it though, try going to smaller cons or meet ups, at least form my experience people who attend thoese tend to be a little less hardcore and more friendly and I have yet to hear one mean comment at them :) hope this helped some

  3. amanda says:

    While I do love ogre Fiona, I would love to have some other options for 1:1 character cosplay. I’m not terribly creative, so I have a hard time coming up with ideas for bending gender/race/size/species of characters in a way that I will feel is really good (then I care less about what others say). Plus, I need to learn to sew, so I can customize or make my own costumes.

    That said, I have found inspiration from two tumblrs (I think there are more out there) that feature some good and some really awesome fat cosplayers:

    http://chubbycosplay.tumblr.com/

    and

    http://fuckyeahfatcosplay.tumblr.com/

  4. hannah hasen says:

    I believe in what your saying. It’s something that I’ve been dealing with a lot with the fact of teasing. I have two little girls who are starting to realize that people don’t look like them. Teaching them to respect and love others no matter what is something that I fight on a daily level. Living in a large city like Chicago makes it harder sometimes with all the radical styles that we have seen. I respect individual personalitys that is expressed in dress and role play ing. I think as a mother it is something that I try to instill in my children to love and respect too. In fact the other day my youngest saw a lady who was oversized in a bright purple dress. She opened her mouth and expressed loudly…. Wow you are so pretty. Best moment of my life… This month. If we teach love and respect we can control the teasing mocking and disrespect of future generations..
    Side note… Your a wonderful role model for my two daughters and I love you so much my dearest sister…. Your beauty on the inside only makes your features on the outside shine brighter…. I love your kindness, knowledge, love, mind, and spirit. You’ve filled my life withjoy, adventures, and a huge support whenever I’ve need it. You ever wanna dress up and go to one of these conventions I will totally be by your side… I love you.

  5. I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been self-conscious about my weight my whole life, and while I have a much better relationship with my body image and my body now in my thirties than I did when I was younger, it’s still something that stings me from time to time.

    Cosplaying is never something that held any appeal for me personally, and I think that my weight is probably at least one aspect of why it hasn’t been a temptation. I do love to sew and make fan-type fabric art though, and to dress up my daughters… never say never, right?

    But I wanted to say how happy it makes me when I see plus-sized (or indeed, any sized) people enjoying their love of cosplay and reinventing the characters and costumes to match their bodies. I love seeing curvy and skinny women alike embracing Doctor-type costumes, or TARDIS frocks. I love seeing a rainbow of Amy Ponds. Not everyone is laughing, or mocking.

    I’d love to see more fat gorgeous characters that we could dress up as without any kind of extra creativity being needed.

    But don’t forget, the TARDIS is one hell of a plus-sized lady.

    • Awh thanks Tansy, that’s really encouraging! I’ve been going through these comments slowly because it’s more emotional than I thought it would be, but thanks so much for being such a bright light on this!

  6. Sally O says:

    I’m surprised there should be a problem. I mean, I’m much too old for most characters I would dress as… so? I could be Jackie, but I’m too old again, flat chested and not blonde. The only look I could probably manage is a Doctor – possibly 4. I suppose the thing I’m getting at is none – or few – of us could really look like the characters as portrayed, especially in the new, younger demographic. Who’s to say Donna wouldn’t look like me one day though, if she got a bit scrawny and cropped her hair?

    • SA says:

      I’m assuming from your use of the word “scrawny” that you’re on the smaller end of body size, at least in terms of weight. Is that a fair inference?

  7. SA says:

    I’m not much of a cosplayer, but I do burlesque, and coming up with a piece for an upcoming show at a local SF/F con is breaking my brain because I keep running up against “well how will they know I’m ____ – I look nothing like her?” unless I pick someone with a really complicated and extremely iconic outfit (that would also require hella lot of time and money investment, rather than being able to costume by “thrifting and improving”). How do I, a fat woman in her late 30s, embody Willow or Tara or Fred and make them clear as a character?

    How do I do a female character who wears body-conscious clothing without being a laughingstock? – Starbuck, Faith, Death, insert comic book heroine here?

    At least I have the privilege of being white, so I have theoretical access to the majority of women depicted in SF/F, but “fat lot of good” (pun intended) that does me in trying to decide whom I can reasonably portray when my body doesn’t exist in genre except as an occasional figure of derision or disgust (Despair burlesque, anyone?).

    And if I delve into less well-known characters whose bodies might be more “fungible,” from books or shows that are more fantasy-oriented and thus more popular with women (men don’t remember women’s characters anyway, amiright?) than how can I be sure the audience will have any idea what I’m doing, if I decide to be Dor or one of the Velvets from Neverwhere, Nanny Ogg from Discworld (can you imagine?), Rita Sue from Carnivale?

    Then there’s the problem that although I like burlesque for mixed/queer audiences, the primary audience is straight men, as is the primary attendance at most Cons. So choosing a character who doesn’t appeal to men, whom men aren’t so likely to know, is shooting myself in the foot before I even get on stage.

    I’m tired already and it’s two months away.

    • I hope you find a great character and I’m sure you will. Thanks so much for sharing your struggle though. I can totally understand your dilemma and tiredness. Anya is my favorite character from Buffy, I even had an Aud costume made to me by a friend, but I haven’t even worn it yet!

  8. SA says:

    Also relevant to this post, and I hope OK with mods – there is a call out for marginalized fans to participate in a study being done by a woman who is an anthropologist and a fan herself. I saw this via the redoubtable Hanne Blank:


    An anthropologist friend of mine is currently starting up a project in which she is examining people’s embodied experiences as fans (of sf/f; media; etc.). She says: “I am particularly interested in speaking to people who identify as fans but who also have identities which do not fit the ‘classic’ (whatever that is) fan body — i.e., women, people of color, queer people of all kinds, genderqueer people, disabled/differently abled people, people from backgrounds not identified as ‘fannish,’ etc.

    “I am asking people, are you interested in being interviewed? I would love to interview ALL sorts of fans (including those who do fit the ‘fan stereotype’). Do you know anyone who might be interested in being interviewed?

    “I am happy to give more information and to discuss the project with anyone who is interested. My project is being overseen by the Harvard Committee for the Use of Human Subjects in Research.”

    If you’d like to talk to her more about this or be interviewed, drop an email to dziwozony AT gmail DOT com, and they’ll pass you along to the researcher in question.

  9. Kate Elmer says:

    I am not a big fan of Cosplay simply because I don’t get the opportunity. I go to few cons and the ones I do go to are with my family. My mother, aunt and grandma are VERY big fans of Cosplay–though I am not sure I have heard them ever use that term specifically. What they enjoy doing (and they are GOOD at it) is creating costumes and roving around cons in character.

    Not one member of my family fits the cultural standard of size but that has never stopped them once. I have never heard anyone say anything negative about this–though I probably wouldn’t. My family certainly is not alone…over the past 30 years that my mother has been costuming for conventions (She’s called Susan Eisenhour…she’s won stuff–look her up) I have seen a countless variety of bodies and ages cosplay as younger, slimmer people. My mother showed me photos once of a woman who looked to be about 60 years old and a size 18 who was cosplaying as Menolly from the Dragonsong/Dragonsinger books. Mom made the comment that she was nothing like Menolly but then said “It’s her fantasy.”

    And that is the phrase that has stuck with me throughout my limited though intensive forays into cosplay: “Its your fantasy.”

  10. Kate Elmer says:

    I honestly don’t get why its a problem. It’s all fantasy, right? That’s the whole point. I am guessing that the reason a lot of us found our way to genre fandom is because for one reason or another we felt that mainstream culture had nothing to say to us. How dare we then turn around and marginalise eachother by those same standards?

  11. Brass Cupcake says:

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. As a person who enjoys costuming, I always find it sad when someone feels they aren’t deserving of cosplay fun — whether due to lack of character choice, or body type, or safe environment. On one hand I want to offer oodles of encouragement and say “EFF IT! GO FOR IT!” On the other hand I empathize with the emotional and personal risks involved, and I can’t ignore that aspect.

    – “Every time I heard these snickers and laughs I was less comfortable with dressing up.”

    FWIW, that’s exactly my experience and my fear, and I have thin privilege. Meaning there can be such a bullying, dehumanizing attitude from spectators at cons or costume events that it feels more like target practice than dressing up. Every time I hear some ass snicker about someone else’s perceived body flaw or costume flaw I can’t help but think, “what are people saying about me that I don’t hear? Worse, what kinds of things *will* I end up hearing?”

    Then of course there is the even uglier online realm. The fear of having my picture posted as a mockery, or the flood of ugly internet trolls dissecting every possible “flaw” in the meanest manner, keeps me from wanting to cosplay at any large event. I’ve done a lot of costuming for parties or local events (and usually enjoyed a positive reception), but big events put me off. It feels like the larger the crowd the greater the risk for ridicule.

    For me it doesn’t matter that most of the people spewing nastiness are themselves in no position to be judging anyone’s appearance or value (either a case of “glass houses…” or obvious lowlife mouth-breathers whose opinion should be immediately discarded). The emotional impact of those comments cuts quick and deep, and by then no amount of intellectualizing is going to change the crappy feeling I’m left with. Partly because those comments, IRL or online, reinforce our negative fears about ourselves. Or simply cut us down when we were finally feeling comfortable. And in the end, the risk of having my mental state screwed up for an entire day (or week) due to nasty unsolicited comments outweighs the potential joy I may get from dressing up.

    And as I said, I’m what most people would consider thin. So I sympathize with people like yourself because I realize you feel this even more acutely. IMO the problem is women’s bodies are so endlessly criticized that there is rarely ever a safe zone.

    If you’re thin… that’s not enough, you also need to have G-cup breasts.

    If you’re thin AND have G-cups… that’s not enough, you also need to be young.

    If you’re thin AND have G-cups AND are young… that’s not enough, you also need to be classically pretty.

    If you’re thin, with G-cups, young AND pretty… that’s still not enough, you also need… and so on, and so on.

    Every checkmark in the “acceptable” column still leaves you open for ridicule for every item left unchecked. And if by some magic of genetics or wardrobe and makeup tricks you manage to check all the boxes… well, you can be pretty much guaranteed to be subjected to a barrage of utterly creepy and objectifying comments that don’t leave you feeling very good either.

    This bullying culture surrounding cosplay is like this ugly intersection of (a) the impossible excruciating beauty standards women are held to, (b) the sexism that makes people think women and their bodies are forfeit once in public [so no basic human respect is required], and (c ) the obnoxious entitlement of nerd culture.

    The sad thing is that in my experience many people WITHIN the cosplay culture are quite accepting of different body types, races and ages. Typically cosplayers offer support to people who aren’t a size 2 or a GG bra cup, encouraging them to be any character they ilk and just have a good time. And the occasional snarky “you’re too fat for that character” is often met with a barrage of self-policing by other cosplayers who don’t like to tolerate that kind of body-shaming. The problem with cosplay is the people outside the cosplay community, who feel no shame at disparaging others.

  12. Tanya says:

    “This bullying culture surrounding cosplay is like this ugly intersection of (a) the impossible excruciating beauty standards women are held to, (b) the sexism that makes people think women and their bodies are forfeit once in public [so no basic human respect is required], and (c ) the obnoxious entitlement of nerd culture.”

    This is the most concise and excellent summation of female cosplay that I’ve ever heard. Thank you for putting it so beautifully!

  13. Nuchtchas says:

    First off, great post. I too have felt this often, and it was one of the reasons I used to say “I would never go to a convention and dress up” but that has all changed for me. I love dressing up but have always been fat, I have heard the taunts but worse yet I have also though some ill things of people cosplayed inappropriately, and it’s not so much what I will hear people say about me in my costume, but what I won’t hear them say, what they will be saying behind my back…

    I started more with dressing up for halloween, I never stopped dressing in costume, even when I was “too old” for it, but since I didn’t have friends anyway, I just did what I wanted. Next, after I was 30 years old I dressed up for a convention, it was a smaller one, filled with lots of pele I already knew, balticon. It was a hit, and I soon found out that I preferred being in costume than out of costume. That being said, all the cons I have been to we’re smaller and when I did got to a larger one I went in plain clothes, still afraid. One of my favorite experiences was at HalCon when a size 40something woman entered the costume contest as wonder woman came out to a room ful cheers, that, was, awesome.

    My costumes arent crazy, you won’t see me dressed as leia or Buffy, it in my own steampunk creaton, as doctor horrible, batgirl (skirt to my knees and dark tights), and perhaps next year Jayne from firefly, still, it’s a hurdle to overcome, if you can overcome the hurdle, it feels great. Also, real geeks love curvy women :)

    • Tabitha Smith "Tabz" says:

      Awhh thanks for the story Nutty, you’re so awesome. I love “real geeks love curvy women!”

  14. Robin Burks says:

    I didn’t cosplay until I discovered Gallifrey One. But my experience there has been nothing but positive. People of all shapes and sizes and ethnicities cosplay at Gallifrey One and I’ve never heard of or seen anyone being made fun of. It’s the one reason that I will cosplay there and probably nowhere else.

    There is a great Doctor Who cosplay community that are very supportive of any and all who want to cosplay on LiveJournal. It’s http://dw-cosplay.livejournal.com/ – they’ve been nothing but welcoming (and extremely) helpful to me.

    I’m a 44-year-old woman and if I can cosplay Rose Tyler and not be teased for it, I think that’s a very good sign.

  15. Stacy Evans says:

    I agree totally. I’m also about an hour and a half outside of Atlanta and really want to go to Dragon Con and dress up but am terrified of snide comments. I look for ideas and things to dress up as and have come across a few cool ones by plus size people such as this Weeping Angel http://pinterest.com/pin/154389093445813575/ and considered something like this steampunk Ursula http://pinterest.com/pin/154389093445884725/ but it’s still very scary. Especially when there are all of the gorgeous women with great figures and amazing costumes. Steampunk is cool but Atlanta is HOT in September!!! Maybe one day I’ll get my courage up and just do it. There’s a great group I met on Meetup.com, Geek Girls of Atlanta, and they dress up every year and it’d be so much fun to hang out with them at D*C. We shouldn’t wait to really live till we’re the perfect size I guess.

    • “We shouldn’t wait to really live till we’re the perfect size I guess.”

      Definitely not. Your body is the one you have, and even if you want to change it (make it thinner, make it bulkier, make it stronger), it’s part of who you are right now. It’s how you experience the world. That makes it beautiful. Think of all the lovely and amazing things your body can do, including wearing amazing costumes that help you engage with your fandom.

      If you wait until your body is perfect, by our society’s standards, you will never live your life. All of our beauty standards are so impossible to achieve that even models and actresses, who spend a lot of time and money policing their body, on top of having particular genetics, are airbrushed within an inch of their lives every time you see them. No one looks like the girl on the cover of magazine, including the girl on the cover of the magazine.

      For those interested in size/fat acceptance blogs, I have quite a few wonderful ones in my Google reader:
      The now-defunct Shapely Prose, which has great archives.
      The Fat Nutritionist, whose Articles & Evidence tab is my go-to for OBESITY CRISIS trolls.
      Lesley Kinzel’s Two Whole Cakes. She also just wrote a book!
      And finally, Eat the Damn Cake, which I love for the deeply personal writing style and self-love.

  16. Wendy says:

    Never let ANYONE tell you that you’re not beautiful cause you are :)
    You’re absolutely BEAUTIFUL *just the way you are* and you’re wonderful, talented, amazing, special, and LOVED just the way you are!

    If people can handle you as you are, then they need to grow up and stop acting like brats, honestly. Don’t ever be who the world tells you to be–just be yourself!
    Trust me, it’s worth every minute of it. In my case, I wear a fox tail and Egyptian-eye makeup (or face paint tribal tattoos, depending on my mood) every day on the Metro (subway) and at college, church, ect. I also wear camouflaged cargo pants, a camo long sleeved shirt, and either an USAF or Medal of honor shirt almost every day. ;)

    so all in all….. BE YOURSELF!!!
    And don’t worry about what other people think of you. If they can’t handle it, then they need to grow up.

  17. Cher Lambeth says:

    I just have to say I love love LOVE everything that’s being said here. Great original post, Tabitha, and great comments on top of that. Sadly the “target practice” we female cosplayers are subject to, whether we fit the body ideal or not, is far too common, and I truly hate to see it stop us from doing something that should be for fun. I don’t really have any good input myself other than to just encourage everyone here to not let the trolls, mouthbreathers, and other keyboard commandos from doing something you truly enjoy. Easier said than done, I know, but it’s good to know we’re not alone. :)

  18. [...] stumbled on a very honest article by Tabitha Grace Smith called “Why I Don’t Cosplay.” Anyone who’s never considered what it’s like to be a overweight person at a con needs [...]

  19. [...] Articles like Tabitha Grace Smith’s on why she doesn’t cosplay highlights some of the difficulties of cosplaying in a non-standard body type start the discussion on taking a stand against society’s standards in this area too. The problem with an entrenched idealization is it’s institutionalization in even sub-societies, and it is only by actively responding against such institutionalization can we, as geeks and nerds, hope to make our sub-society one that accepts people who are outside society’s standards, especially when it comes to body type. Fortunately, there are tumblrs like Fuck Yeah Fat Cosplay, More to Love: Fat-Positive Cosplay, and The Adventures of Fatty Thor which try to do just that. So I wanted to highlight those tumblrs and combine them with my Kissing Cosplay idea, that all cosplayers are loved by us geeks and nerds, because they are one of us. Loving something to love it. (After looking at hundreds of kissing cosplay, I have to say, you all need to get out there and do some more kissing! ) [...]

  20. marindarrell says:

    Good post indeed….! I love the stories about Sherlock Holmes from my childhood. I think the read is about the real geeks is also awesome. All the massages shared here is magnificent to me. Thanks for the allotment. Keep it up. :lol:

  21. ChimeraDeimos says:

    I’m having trouble finding people or things to cosplay as due to my size.
    I want to be something cool or something noticable.

    And all I can say the only things I can think of that people will accept from a tad overweight person as myself is maybe a scarecrow from doctor who or those things with the gas masks. You know, something you can be your size with but also something everyone will know.

  22. Elle says:

    I’m a step mum to four who is pretty heavily involved in the cosplay community because of what my partner makes (realistic toy guns for cosplayers and filmmakers) anywho, we go to alot of the conventions in Australia and I too have been made to feel ashamed by my weight. I’m a size 16/18. I’m pretty curvy (even if I got into a debate once on what is curvy) It’s kinda sad I spend more time on making costumes for my super slim s-daughter (who is 10) then I do on mine. Purely because she will be the centre of attention. When I go military style I get snickers because people think Which army would let in her fat ass… but then they see me walking around with my four kids in military procession in a straight line and they think… hang on she could pass as a drill sargent any day! Its sad more bigger girls don’t get out there and do it too. But then again there is not alot of roles we COULD do. Honestly I’m contemplating doing Ellie from borderlands 2 for this convention… but the funny thing is I’m too small to pass it off… I don’t know. But please don’t completely give up on the idea of cosplaying cause there are some people out there who are bigger who ROCK IT!

  23. L????L says:

    That’s it! I’m going to brave it and dress up as the tenth Doctor at my local Ren Fest! Screw considering Foon Van Hoff, perfectly nice girl though she is! [Though a good, not overdone cosplay for a plus-sized couple would be one of her and her husband Morvin. (See: Voyage of the Damned) Also, note how nice the Doctor was to them and what he did to those meanies who tricked them and laughed at their weight and naiivety. The Doctor doesn't mind if you're large as long as you've got a good heart and are nice to people.]

      • L????L says:

        So I found an old comment I did. Yeah, I actually did go and do as I said I would. Had a great time, really. I’ve gotten better at it and I’ve lost some weight since then. This year, I went as Vislor Turlough. Look him up, he’s pretty cool.
        I’ve gotten better at cosplay as well.

  24. [...] whitewashed, but people of color get shit for daring to cosplay white characters. (Ditto for fat folks cosplaying skinny characters.) Now, I’m totally for cosplaying a character that you love no matter what color your skin [...]

  25. Marie says:

    I don’t want to be mean nor rude, but letting others dictate what you should feel about yourself is ridiculous. So what if you’re overweight. I’m chubby and I still love to cosplay, there’s ways to look slimmer and not show anything that shouldn’t be shown for modesty if you care too much for that. Corsets, girdles, and other things help out a lot when shaping yourself much more easily for a certain character. OR you can not use them and still be happy.
    So screw them, do your thing and rock your cosplay as best as you can and as happy as you can get. If they snicker, let htem snicker, they’re the pathetic ones for haivng to snicker at you to feel better themselves. Most time they don’t even cosplay, so, they have no effing idea of what it takes. Feel proud of your efforts, and be happy about them, the world will continue to spin no matter what anyways. ^^U

  26. Marielle says:

    I run a cosplaysite, with almost 1k likes on facebook, but I have yet to make a debut in cosplaying. Because of things like this. I’m overweight, and most don’t mmind it, they say – but they snicker too. And they don’t mind it – unless you don’t compete.

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      I don’t think you need our permission to point your friends to something you think is cool, but, for what it’s worth–go for it. And thank you.

  29. cynthia says:

    Fuck society, that is! Whatever you do, they will always have a say. You can’t please everybody. You just have to stick to what really makes you happy and don’t mind the haters. Haters gonna hate. I know some famous cosplayers like Yuegene Fay per se, she said in her twitter that she’s fat. And then I looked at her photos, it makes me want to say straight in her face “Which part of your body that says Fat?!”. I’m telling you, she’s as skinny as hell! This is what cosplays negative side, i must say. You tend to copy not only the costume but the figure of these characters which sometimes are totally impossible since they’re just anime characters. Well, yeah photoshop is there but there are still people who were gonna criticize you whatsoever.

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